Power and Pleasure are more connected than you think
Here's what nobody tells you about powerful women: they know what feels good to them. And that knowledge? It's their secret weapon for unshakeable boundaries.
I'm not talking about superficial pleasures or instant gratification. I'm talking about deep, embodied knowing of what truly nourishes you, what genuinely brings you joy, what makes your body feel alive and your soul feel fed.
The Pleasure-Power Connection
When you're deeply connected to what brings you genuine pleasure - the kind that comes from alignment, not performance - you develop an internal compass that's impossible to manipulate.
Think about it: if you know what truly feels good in your body, you can immediately recognize what doesn't. If you know what energizes you, you can spot what drains you from a mile away.
This isn't about being selfish. It's about being honest.
The Difference Between People-Pleasing and Genuine Generosity
Women who are disconnected from their own pleasure often give from a place of depletion, obligation, or fear. They say yes because they think they should, not because they want to.
But women who are connected to their pleasure? They give from overflow. They know the difference between:
Genuine generosity (feels expansive, energizing)
People-pleasing (feels contractive, draining)
Your Body's Pleasure Wisdom
Your body is constantly giving you information about what feels good and what doesn't. But most of us have been taught to ignore these signals in favor of what we think we "should" want or feel.
Real pleasure awareness means tuning into:
What foods actually make your body feel energized (not what diet culture says you should eat)
What activities leave you feeling alive (not what looks good on social media)
What conversations nourish your soul (not what's expected in your social circle)
What touch feels good to your body (not what you think you should enjoy)
Sensuality as Self-Knowledge
When I talk about sensuality, I'm not talking about performance or putting on a show for others. I'm talking about your relationship with your own senses, your own body, your own aliveness.
A woman who knows how she likes to be touched, what scents make her feel at home in her body, what textures bring her comfort, what sounds soothe her nervous system - this woman is connected to her power.
Because she knows herself. And when you know yourself, you can't be easily swayed by others' opinions, expectations, or demands.
The Manipulation Antidote
Here's something I've noticed in my coaching work: women who are connected to their pleasure are incredibly difficult to manipulate.
Why? Because manipulation works by disconnecting you from your own knowing. It works by making you doubt your instincts, question your desires, and prioritize others' comfort over your own truth.
But when you're deeply rooted in your own pleasure wisdom, when you know what feels good and what doesn't, manipulation tactics bounce right off you.
From Combat Sports to Sensual Strength
In Muay Thai, we talk about "feeling" the fight. You can't think your way through every move - you have to feel your way through it. Your body knows when to strike, when to defend, when to create distance.
The same is true for boundaries. When you're connected to your pleasure and power, you can feel when something is off, when someone is pushing too hard, when a situation doesn't serve you.
Reclaiming Your Pleasure Compass
Start small. Ask yourself throughout the day:
Does this feel good in my body?
Does this energize me or drain me?
Am I doing this because I want to or because I think I should?
What would feel really good right now?
The Permission You've Been Waiting For
You have permission to want what you want. You have permission to enjoy what you enjoy. You have permission to say no to what doesn't feel good, even if you can't explain why.
Your pleasure isn't frivolous - it's information. It's your body's way of guiding you toward what serves your highest good.
Tomorrow, we'll talk about how to say no with grace and absolute certainty - without softening, explaining, or apologizing.
Until then, trust what feels good.